Wednesday, September 29, 2010

A true Simchat Torah story.

by Rabbi Yerachmiel Milstein

He came by my house every six months or so, for a modest contribution to support the immigrant village he helped build in Israel to absorb new arrivals from Russia. His excited, high pitched voice and happy, dancing eyes belied the deep furrows in his brow which were painfully etched by decades of punishment at the hands of the communist authorities for the terrible crime of being an observant Jew in the Soviet Union during the 50's, 60's and early 70's.

It became a ritual. I'd ask the diminutive rabbi if he'd like a bite to eat. He would always counter in his Russian accented Yiddish, "Perhaps, just a glass tea." My wife would serve him a steaming cup of dark orange brew along with a generous slice of home made cake, both of which seemed to help straighten his sagging shoulders just a bit. Trudging door to door for small donations, it had certainly been awhile since his last square meal.

He looked up at me and smiled broadly. "Did you know there was such a thing as a Cantonist Shul?"

I remembered stories I heard as a child which described some of the darkest, but most heroic days in Jewish history.

They would be kidnapped from their parents' home, tortured repeatedly until they either accepted Christianity or died of their wounds.

The Cantonists were Jews who from 1825-1840 were forcibly conscripted into the Russian Czar's army from as early as the age of 10, and obligated to serve for 25 years. The authorities saw it as a corrective, forced assimilation of stubborn Jews into Russian society. They would be kidnapped from their parents' home, tortured repeatedly until they either accepted Christianity or died of their wounds.

They were starved, beaten and lashed, often with whips fashioned from their own confiscated tefillin. In their malnourished states, the open wounds on their chests and backs would turn septic and many boys, who had heroically resisted renouncing their Judaism for months, would either perish or cave in and consent to the show baptism. The Czar would have only reliable Christian Russians defending the motherland.

To avoid this horrific fate, some parents actually had their sons' limbs amputated in the forests at the hands of local blacksmiths, and their sons -- no longer able bodied -- would avoid conscription. Many other children tragically committed suicide rather than convert.

Some 40,000 young Jewish boys were forced into Czar Nicholas' army, and very few emerged alive as practicing Jews.

Even the brave few survivors who secretly maintained their faith and managed to return to their families 25 years later, by and large found themselves shunned as traitors to Judaism.

"The Cantonists actually did have a shul of their own," the rabbi continued. "After all, they had nowhere else to go."

"My grandfather told me that he once attended the Cantonist Shul on Simchat Torah. The Cantonists could dance like Cossacks. They were huge, strong men, and the heavy Torah scrolls would seem like toothpicks in their arms. They effortlessly danced on for hours on end. Although they were looked down upon by other Jews, and they were not very learned and really couldn't observe the Torah properly, they were nonetheless able to rejoice in their Judaism and celebrate the Torah. It was truly amazing."

He paused long enough to dip a sugar cube into the still hot tea cup, placed the cube in his mouth and swallowed another long swig of the tea.

"Then for the final hakafah (circuit around the synagogue's central lectern), the Cantonists, as if on cue, suddenly removed their shirts in unison! With the Torahs held tightly to their bare skin which was covered with the ugliest welts and scars you ever saw, they danced around even more energetically. Their smiles were now giving way to streams of tears as they looked out into the crowd of assembled Jews, as if to say, 'You may have studied and observed this Torah, but we gave our bodies and our lives for it. The Torah is at least as much ours as it is yours!'"

As he put the tea cup down, he couldn't hide the tremor in his hand which caused a rattled meeting of cup to saucer.

Wiping away a tear with his napkin, he said, "In democratic America it is so easy. Yet so many say, 'It's so hard.' Go figure."

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Hello,
Hope everyone is well.
I e-mailed you all a while ago about donating blood for my friend Natan so thank you to everyone who gave and to all the people who can give again or for the first time, please consider it (information below). He really really needs tefillot. Please please daven for him- NATAN ELIYAHU BEN DEVORA KAYLA.
Thank you, tizku l'mitzvot and chag sameach.
-Jess
He specifically needs blood from non-family members. We ask that members of the community call Joe Licata 212-639-8177or Mary Thomas 212-639-3335 at Sloan Kettering to make an appointment. If you cannot reach the 2 phone numbers above, you can make an appointment to donate by calling the receptionists in the donor room at 212-639-7643.
Donors, please go to: Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center Schwartz Research Building Lobby 1250 First Avenue (Between 67th and 68th Streets) New York, NY 10021.
If you are driving, 5 hour Parking Vouchers are available to our donors for free parking in Memorial Sloan-Kettering's parking garage at the time of donation.The garage is called the Sumerset Garage and is located on the NW corner of 72nd Street and York.
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Monday, September 27, 2010

hey everyone- kayla's grandma is in the hospital and really not doing so well- please try to say tehillim for malka bat chana raizel, it can really do a lot!!

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Is it really worth becoming a thief to save $14.99?

I want to know if its against the halacha to copy music from other people.
Some people claim its not, since you're not actually stealing something.
Firstly, according to Rav Moshe Feinstein Zatzal and other Poskim(including Rav Shmuel Wosner Shlita, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg Shlita and Rav Yisroel Belsky Shlita) , you are prohibited from copying any item that has been created by someone else, if that person is selling it. This would apply to jewelry, art, Sefarim...andcopying Torah or music tapes as well. The reason is that doing so will cause the creator of the item to lose sales, and thus lose money due to your action and is Gezeilah (See Igros Moshe Orach Chaim Vol. 4 Siman 40:19)

Therefore, many of today's Poskim pasken that if you bought the tape, CD or music download and you want to make an additional copy for yourself (let's say to keep one at home and one in the car) it would be permitted, as most people don't, and wouldn't, buy two copies, and making the second copy for yourself is not causing the creator to lose a sale. But to copy someone else's CD for your own use is prohibited.

The fact that a song is an "intellectual creation" makes no difference, and one who steals it is guilty of the sin of stealing. This is especially true if the music CD in question is specifically sold on this condition (as most are today) which in most cases can withhold certain "rights" from the buyer, thus one cannot claim that "I bought it, and it is now mine to with as I please, including copying etc.

Furthermore when there are copyright laws in effect which prohibit the copying of the music, it would also be prohibited Halachically based on the concept of "Dina D'Malchusa Dina- that a Jew must obey the civil laws of the host country he/she resides in" (See Shach Yoreh Deah 165:8)

Although certain Rabbanim have ruled that even for personal use (as a second copy) is prohibited, one may rely on the above Poskim and indeed make a copy for personal use.

However, one who relies on "Heterim" to initially copy a music CD or download is probably transgressing a "D'Oraisa" of Geneiva.

HEY GUYS!
hope you all have a beautiful yuntif and are having a great chol, and are looking forward iy;H to another beautiful yuntif!

If you could Please add these two names to your cholim list it would be greatly appreciated!
Shaindel bas Golda
Shoshana Yocheved bas Chaya Devorah ...Betoch Sha'ar Cholei Yisroel

Iy'H we should have the zchus to live in a time where these tefillot are not needed for cholim and just for Hashem.

Tizku Lmitzvos.

Saturday, September 25, 2010


Ahhhh!! were finally cleansed!! yom kippur has passed and G-d has forgiven our sins!! woohoo !! sooo now what? what are we supposed to do now?

we get up and move out of our homes into temporary tents ... ummm ok thats cool.. but how does that show what we should be feeling just four days after all our sins were completely thrown away?

LEt's rewind a little...

ROsh Hashana we were filled with simcha.. y? because we were annointing our king
yom kippur we were filled with simcha because that king forgave all our sins...
and now were sitting here in the succah and what do we have to do? be besimcha!! HA ..zman simchaseinu!

What do these three things have in common?

it seems that our avodah for the past month was to be working on our simcha.. also lets not forget that just a few weeks ago we read in ki savo about the klalos (curses) that befell klal yisroel. and wat was the reason that we deserved them? .. "tachas asher lo avadeta es Hashem ELokecha beSIMCHA uv'tuv levav" why do we get cursed ? because we werent serving hashem with SIMCHA..

but what really is this simcha were speaking of ? does it mean to be happy ? does is mean to throw a party ? to walk around smiling and jumping? what is it?

well honestly theres no real translation for the word.. but maybe we can find an explanation.....

we know that it doesnt mean to be happy .. how do we know this? ahhh from our old buddy .. yonah hanavi!!

chazal tell us that in order for a navi to receive nevuah he must be in a state of SIMCHA.. At the end of sefer Yonah, the navi asks HAshem to take his life..he wanted to die!
ummm do u think that he was smiling from ear to ear and jumping around with happiness? i think not! so how could it be that he was speaking to G-d when he obviously wasnt happy? The answer is because simcha doesnt mean happiness the way we view it.. so what does it mean?

am i annoying yet? CHANIE just tell us the answer!!! ha sorry but im gonna be even more annoying cuz i dont knwo the answer!!! haha

but this is what im thinking.. The answer possibly lies in our original question why are we going out to the succah after being cleansed from all our sins?

Rav Pincus brings down that we say every day in shmoneh esrei... melech , ozer , u'moshea , u'magen..
MELECH.. is rosh hashana we annoint our melech, our king!
OZER.. is aseres yemei teshuva ..when Hashem helps us with what we need to work on, because Hes so close by (dirshu Hashem behimatzo..)
MOSHEA... thats yom kippur where He mamash saves our lives by erasing our sins
and finally...
MAGEN .... SUCCOS!!!
once were forgiven for all our sins, we now trust Hashem so much that we get up from our homes and move out into a succah with flimsy walls.. to show HAshem that He is the one who is MAgen ! HE alone is the reason why we are safe and alive.. and its not our homes that protect us; its Him!
and thats the greatest simcha.. knowing that Hakadosh Boruch Hu is in charge, taking that deep breath of no worries because our lives are in His hands.. thats the simcha of this time.. the time after we have been forgiven .. we rejoice in the fact that Hakadosh Boruch Hu wiped away our sins and is now protecting us with every step we take from here on;

Yonah too trusted in Hashem ..so much so, that he was besimcha even at the time he was asking to be killed , because even though he was suffering, he still knew and was comforted by the fact that Hashem is in charge..

Rebbe Nachman said it perfectly.. Mitzvah gedolah lehiyos BESIMCHA tamid!! its a mitzvah to always be BESIMCHA ...which means IN simcha.
First of all where does he get that its a mitzvah? (its not one of the 613?)
and why does he say IN simcha? (he should have said mitzvah gedolah lehiyos SAMEACH tamid!)

i think that..Because being inside something means being surrounded by it .. just like a succah!! so being IN simcha means being suorrounded by the idea that Hashem is the one and only protector of everything!! understanding THAT and reminding ourselves of THAT is a mitzvah temidis.. to know GOd is one and Hes the one running the show and nothing else! (that may be why he also says the word tamid!! )

thats what succos is all about .. to look at the flimsy walls of our succah and realize that we are being surrounded by the walls of protectioin .. GOD protection .....and only one thing is really keeping us safe .. HAKADOSH BORUCH HU!
Knowing THAT! is the greatest simcha of all!!

may Hashem be magen that the simcha we feel now will be protected and last throughout the whole year!!

TAMID BESIMCHA!!
~chana shira

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

You're going to want to tear your hair out after reading this but as we learned on Yom Kippur, choosing to remain ignorant doesn't provide us with a free pass either. If you're more of the ahavah type- the more you struggle with a mitzvah the more schar you get, and on the yirah side- I think I heard somewhere the Torah mentions bugs 7 times clearly emphasizing how serious this law of kashrus is so, the Star-K (among others) has compiled a list of what and how to clean fruits and vegetables. I'm going o be honest this seems next to impossible to keep 100% but we have to try our best!

A gutten erev sukkos!!!!

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Lessons from Cherokee Indians?!


Do you know the legend of the Cherokee Indian youth's rite of Passage?

His father takes him into the forest, blindfolds him and leaves him alone. He is required to sit on a stump the whole night and not remove the blindfold until the rays of the morning sun shine through it. He cannot cry out for help to anyone.
Once he survives the night, he is a MAN.
He cannot tell the other boys of this experience, because each lad must come into manhood on his own.
The boy is naturally terrified. He can hear all kinds of noises. Wild beasts must surely be all around him . Maybe even some human might do him harm. The wind blew the grass and earth, and shook his stump, but never removing the blindfold. It would be the only way he could become a man!
Finally, after a horrific night the sun appeared and he removed his blind fold.
It was then that he discovered his father sitting on the stump next to him.
He had been at watch the entire night, protecting his son from harm.

Lichvod/Dear Klal Yisrael,
We, too, are never alone.
Even when we don't know it, Hashem our Father is watching over us, Sitting on the stump beside us.
All we have to do is reach out to Him.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

My Son the Doctor-Murderer- The Unconditional Love of Sukkas

by: Sara Yocheved Rigler

Nava’s doctor killed a woman. Not by malpractice. The woman was claiming that her baby was Dr. X’s child. He got fed up with her, went with a loaded gun to her apartment, and murdered her. Dr. X is now serving a life sentence in an Israeli jail for first degree murder.

Nava knew that people could make dramatic turn-arounds because in her own life she had transformed herself from non-religious Israeli to observant Jew. So she visited her former doctor in prison in order to encourage him to do teshuva[repent]. Dr. X was totally uninterested. All he wanted to talk about was how angry he was at his mother because she refused to visit him in prison.

Nava related this story at our family Shabbat table. It led to a lively discussion. I took the mother’s side. A human being is, I contended, the aggregate of his actions. A person who does good is good, while a person who commits evil deeds is evil. Why should his mother, who had given him a high level of education and every opportunity to become a mensch and an asset to society, visit a son who had willfully chosen to murder someone in cold blood?

Other guests at the Shabbos table disagreed. “What about unconditional love?”

I never got the concept of “unconditional love.” It’s not true that “you are what you eat.” Rather, “you are what you do.” How can you love your son the murderer? Your son the rapist? What exactly are you loving in the miscreant?

THE TOUCHSTONE

I have only one son, who was born when I was 46 years old after five years of intensive fertility treatments. Of course, I adore him and lavish on him love and attention. Many months after the discussion about the doctor convicted for murder, my son, then 14 years old, got into trouble in school. We got a phone call from the rabbi in charge recounting my son’s offense. With my volatile nature, I ordinarily would have let into my son, but my husband calmed me down and coached me on what to say when he came home from school.

“I thoroughly disapprove of what you did,” I told him, “but I still love you.”

My son’s impassioned response almost knocked me off my chair: “But you wouldn’t visit me in prison!”

"Your love has its limits. If I really misbehaved, if I did something terrible, you wouldn’t love me!"

Apparently he had taken in more of that long-ago conversation than I had realized. Now he was saying loud and clear: Your love has its limits. If I really misbehaved, if I did something terrible, you wouldn’t love me. Your conditional love for me isn’t good enough.

Since honesty had always characterized our relationship, I could offer no soothing platitudes. I shook my head and admitted, “No, if you murdered someone, I wouldn’t visit you in prison.”

This “wouldn’t visit you in prison” touchstone became a pebble in the shoe of our relationship. At regular intervals he threw it up to me. I realized that my profuse love for my son was like being allowed to live in a gorgeous home — complete with swimming pool and gym — but with the insecurity of knowing you could be evicted at any time. I would have to learn to love my child unconditionally, but how?

GOD’S LOVE

Rabbi Efim Svirsky once gave a class-cum-meditation in my home. He guided the assembled women to induce a meditative state, then asked us to experience “God is here now.” Check. I did it easily.

Next, he asked us to experience, “God loves you.” Check. I feel it all the time.

Lastly, he asked us to experience, “God loves you unconditionally.” Gulp. I ran into a stone wall.

My problem, I realized, is that I had no experience of unconditional love. My mother no doubt loved me unconditionally, but my father always loomed larger in my life. He was 44 years old when I, his only daughter, was born. He adored me and showered me with love. And I gave him good reason to. I brought home straight-A report cards, won a prestigious essay contest, got into the National Honor Society, was President of my synagogue youth group, was accepted at several top colleges, and graduated Phi Beta Kappa, magna cum laude. My father was always, as my mother put it, “bursting his buttons” with pride at my accomplishments.

But what if I had no accomplishments? Would he still love me as much? I never dared think about that frightening “what if.”

A person is, in essence, his core, his Divine soul.

When Rabbi Svirsky asked us to experience God’s unconditional love, however, I realized that I had to go deeper. Does God love me because of my accomplishments? No, God loves me because my soul is a spark of God’s own luminous Divinity. Just as a mother loves her newborn, sans accomplishments, because the baby is part of her, so God loves us because our soul essence is part of God. I was wrong in my contention that a person is the aggregate of his actions, like an onion that has no core. A person is, in essence, his core, his Divine soul. One’s actions are the layers of curtains that surround the soul, sometimes becoming so opaque and dark that they obscure the soul’s light entirely. But God made a covenant with our forefather Jacob that He would never allow a Jewish soul to fall below the point of irredeemability. That spiritual essence, what we call the pintele Yid, is always worthy of unconditional love.

After working to make this concept real in my mind and heart, one day I sat my son down and announced, “I would visit you in prison even if you committed murder. I’m there.”

He smiled broadly. Our relationship made a quantum leap up.

SUKKOT

By fulfilling the mitzvah of dwelling in a sukkah during the holiday of Sukkot, a Jew is literally surrounded by the Shechina, the feminine Presence of God. This is generally conceived as the “reward” for the repentance the person undertook during the Rosh Hashana-Yom Kippur period. Now that the soul is cleansed of its dross, the person can dwell in God’s presence in the sukkah.

But what if a person fails to repent? We are taught that for a person to attain atonement on Yom Kippur, the person must have passed through the stages of teshuvah: admitting, regretting, and resolving to change (plus, if he hurt another person, seeking that person’s forgiveness). What if a person didteshuvah on some misdeeds, but not others? Or didn’t do teshuvah at all? Then he enters the sukkah with his misdeeds still clinging to his soul, as if dressed in filthy, stinking rags. Is such a soul still visited by the Shechina when sitting in the sukkah?

The answer is “Yes!” There are no admission criteria to the sukkah. You don’t have to have an “I-did -teshuvah ticket” to get in. The feminine Divine Presence descends and hovers over and around the sukkah, whether it is inhabited by saints or sinners. And since this gross physical dimension is often in Jewish parables considered a prison for the soul, that means that during Sukkot God’s “Mother aspect” visits Her child the sinner in prison.

As you sit in the sukkah this week, think about that and feel God’s unconditional love.

Friday, September 17, 2010

Why Do We Cry During Neillah?

Although we know that the Holy days of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur are emotional days, we find that during the closing of Yom Kippur and specifically in the special moments of Tefilas Ne’ilah, our people have a tendency to become even more emotional and to weep. Why?

The answer can be explained with a parable. Imagine a King has an only daughter who gets married to a boy from a faraway province. This princess who is used to living in the lap of luxury, must now live on her own in a distant place. Some time after her marriage, the King receives a letter from his daughter full of a longing and desire to see her Father. In the letter, she complains bitterly regarding the simple folk who live in her town. She complains that she is not being treated in accordance with her stature and that she feels miserable living in this boorish and low environemt. The King reads this letter and is concerned for his daughter. He immediately sends word to the town that he will be making a personal visit to the town in just a few weeks. Naturally, this small town starts buzzing with excitement! The king himself is coming to visit! In the ensuing few weeks, the town feverishly prepares for the Kings visit. The streets are swept and cleaned and lavish feasts are prepared. People purchase new clothing in honor of the Kings visit, etc. On the day of the Kings arrival, the entire town comes out to greet their King. The King joins the town for 10 days of festivities and celebrations where the King gets to interact personally with his Daughter, who is naturally ecstatic to be living in her Fathers embrace once again! During his stay, the King finds the community to be attentive and pleasant. However, as he gets ready to depart back to his castle, his daughter begins to weep all over again and begs her Father to stay! The King is puzzled and asks his daughter why she seems so upset…indeed, the people of this town and the atmosphere seems so pleasant!!.. The daughter explains to her father as follows, “My dear Father, don’t you understand that all of these festivities and goodwill was generated just for your visit. However, now that you are going back home, things will slide back into the normal routine which I cannot bear! Please, please do not go away!!! Stay here with me!

This parable is aptly applied to our penchant for crying bitter tears during the closing moments of Yom Kippur. Indeed, the weeks of Elul and all the way up to the culmination of Yom Kippur, are incredible days of Holiness and a closeness with Borei Olam! We are literally living with Hashem and it is like Heaven on this Earth! In this time of bliss, we forget our previous despondency over our ‘reality’. However, in the closing precious moments of Ne’ilah when Hashem is getting ready to depart back to the Heavenly spheres (as it says in the pasuk “Yoshev Bashamayim Yischok”), we cry out to Hashem and we say TATTY!! PLEASE DON’T GO AWAY FROM US, STAY HERE WITH US, WE NEED YOU!!

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Passage taken from Rav Ehrmans Blog-Mevakesh Lev ( a must go to blog)

The Kvittel And The Rebbe

A tearjerker!

A wedding at Moshav Talelei Shachar. Uncle Shmuel, the uncle of the chassan, approaches the microphone after the chuppah to say a few words.

"Dear Congregation, for 30 years I am an electrician on the Moshav, but now I feel an obligation to tell a story that is more befitting for a Rabbi than for an electrician. Eight years ago I decided to travel to the death camps in Poland. As you know my parents are holocaust survivors and I felt a strong need to find out where they came from. My wife was against the trip. You don't vacation in Aushwitz, she argued. But ultimately I was able to convince her.

One day we visited a small, unknown death camp where my father was an inmate for four years. We walked around the camp and wiped away tears. Suddenly we saw a man in Chassidic garb, about 85 years old rushing towards us.

"Are you Jews from Israel?"

"Yes".

"Today is our Rebbe's yahrtzeit. His grave is about 5 kilometers north. Go there, write a kvittel [note] and ask for something you need and you will see wonders and miracles. Believe me, any person who came on the yahrtzeit and wrote a kvittel received what he asked for."

Nu, continued Uncle Shmuel, I am not so religious and wanted him to leave me alone. However the Divine Spirit suddenly rested on my wife and she pressured me to go until I relented.

We arrived at the grave and saw Chassidim chuckling back and forth. I wanted to leave but my wife pressured me - "Shmuel, write a kvittel!" What kvittel? I don't speak to dead people, I told her. You write. So my wife took out a pen and paper and wrote something. I have no idea what she wrote. She then found a crack and stuck it in. In the meantime the Chassidim got on their minibusses and left. Suddenly a big Polish farmer came with two pails. He started gathering thousands of kvittlach and placed them in the pails.

"Hello Mister! What are you doing?"

The Polish farmer answered in broken English that once a year he gathers the papers and burns them in his courtyard.

Thousands of people come and write kvittlach to some Rebbe who died a long time ago. What were they writing? The curiosity was killing me. So I decided to pick out ONE kvittel and see what a person wrote. Just one.

Dear Friends, Chosson and Kallah, for 8 years I am walking around with this kvittel and with your permission I will read it.

Shmuel the electrician took out his wallet and pulled out an old, creased, yellowed note and started to read.

"Dear Rebbe,

They tell me that you are connected to the Creator and you make sure that people are granted whatever people ask of you on your yahrtzeit. I am a simple Jewish boy and I have one request. I know a kindhearted girl named Michal. Please do me a favor and ask the Creator to convince her to marry me.

Natan from Moshav Tallelei Shachar"


Natan and Michal - MAZEL TOV! This kvittel was written by our chattan 10 years ago when he was 17 and a half and today I am at his chuppah. Today I see the power of an elderly Rabbi to make things happen... Do you understand, from the thousands of kvittlach I took specifically the kvittel of my beloved nephew and guarded it like a treasure. You are right, Shmuel is no big religious guy but Shmuel tells you that you Natan and Michal are not only a match from Heaven - but a match from the kvittlach.

The Chosson Natan ran towards his Uncle Shmuel and looked at the kvittel. "I am shocked, I don't believe it. Only a blind man would not admit that this is a case of Divine Providence. I forgot about it completely. How did you pick it up from the thousands of kvittlach?!

Yes, dear invited guests, Natan forgot about the kvittel, the Rebbe and the request but the Holy Shechina which surrounds the chuppah of this couple caressed his head and sent him a reminder.

Two weeks later Natan and Michal travelled to Poland.

Natan kissed the tombstone and said "Dear Rebbe, Michal and I are deeply touched. Thank you for your prayers and we promise you honorable Rabbi, to build a holy Jewish home outside the Moshav."

On the other side of the old, creased, yellowed note Michal wrote with a shaking hand the following words:"Daven for us Rebbe that we should succeed on our new path", and she stuck it deep, deep into a hidden crevice so that no Polish farmer would be able to remove it.

Ever.

[Told by Rav Yaakov Levi, Ohr Ha'Emunah Netzvim Vayeilech]
I'm begging you to cry your heart out and ask hashem to give refuah to Shaul Pesach ben Pesah Leah.
Its a man who just a got a heart surgery and is not doing well...his daughter flew home from israel tonight from her shana bet expereince not knowing what her return plan is. Is there anything you can do? YES! PLEASE DAVEN
Thank you so much and may we only only hear of smachot

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Chizuk For The Day. Aish.com

#990 You are Writing Your Autobiography

Throughout your life, you are writing your autobiography through all that you do. You are in the middle of writing the story of your present and future life. Your current self-image tells the story about yourself until now. Since you are still in the middle of this life story, at any given moment you can speak and act in ways that elevate the story of your life and make it more meaningful. You can choose to do much more good than ever before, become more spiritual, gain wisdom, be kinder, influence others, and refine your character traits. The positive things that you can do now revise the entire picture of your life.

Each minute, hour, day, week, month, and year, you write new sentences, paragraphs, pages, and chapters. The positive choices you make, what you think, say, and do, add self-image-building content to your entire life. Every entry in your autobiography adds to the entire picture. Many entries make just minor additions. At times, an important entry can change the entire picture of where you are now and what direction you are headed.

(From Rabbi Zelig Pliskin's book: "Building Your Self- image and the Self-image of Others" (Artscroll) Chapter 8)

In 134 CE, the great Talmudic sage, Rabbi Akiva, was taken captive by the Romans, and executed five days later in Caesarea, Israel. Rabbi Akiva had been a 40-year-old shepherd who could not even read the Aleph-Bet. One day, he came across a stone that had been holed out by a constant drip of water. He concluded: If something as soft as water can carve a hole in solid rock, how much more so can Torah -- which is fire -- make an indelible impression on my heart. Rabbi Akiva committed himself to Torah study, and went on to become the greatest sage of his generation, with 24,000 students learning under him at one time. The Roman authorities eventually arrested him for "illegally" teaching Torah. As he was being tortured, Rabbi Akiva rejoiced in fulfilling the biblical command to "love God with all your life." As he died, Rabbi Akiva uttered the words of Shema Yisrael. His self-sacrifice for Torah continues to inspire Jews till today.






5 Tishrei


He forgives the sins of His people, and passes them over, one by one ... (Selichos).

The Talmud states that if a person repeats a particular sin, he may be forgiven up to the third time, but not beyond that (Yoma 86b).

Before Yom Kippur, a chassid came to the chassidic master, Rabbi Bunim of Pshis'cha. The master reprimanded him for being remiss in the proper observance of a mitzvah and the man promised that he would be more diligent - but the following year, the same scene was repeated.

When the chassid again asserted that he would mend his ways, the Rabbi invited him to a game of chess. During the game, the Rabbi intentionally made a wrong move and asked permission to be permitted to retract the move. "You know the rule, Rabbi," the chassidsaid, "once you have removed your hand from the piece, the move is final." Nevertheless, he gave in. Later in the match the same thing happened, and the man said, "I am sorry, Rabbi, but you cannot keep on retracting moves. You must think before you move; once you have done so, it is final."

"Exactly, my son," the Rabbi said, "and if this is so a game, how much more so in the serious business of life."

Just as there cannot be endless retractions in chess, so we must realize that some actions are final. Repeating the same sin after one knows it was wrong indicates an attitude of carelessness.


Today I shall ...
... try to give serious consideration to my behavior and avoid repeating the mistakes of the past.


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A Mench Who Might Save America

Posted: 30 Jun 2010 12:55 AM PDT

Astounding...

My Philanthropic Pledge

By Warren Buffett- June 16, 2010

FORTUNE -- In 2006, I made a commitment to gradually give all of my Berkshire Hathaway stock to philanthropic foundations. I couldn't be happier with that decision.

Now, Bill and Melinda Gates and I are asking hundreds of rich Americans to pledge at least 50% of their wealth to charity. So I think it is fitting that I reiterate my intentions and explain the thinking that lies behind them.

First, my pledge: More than 99% of my wealth will go to philanthropy during my lifetime or at death. Measured by dollars, this commitment is large. In a comparative sense, though, many individuals give more to others every day.

Millions of people who regularly contribute to churches, schools, and other organizations thereby relinquish the use of funds that would otherwise benefit their own families. The dollars these people drop into a collection plate or give to United Way mean forgone movies, dinners out, or other personal pleasures. In contrast, my family and I will give up nothing we need or want by fulfilling this 99% pledge.

Moreover, this pledge does not leave me contributing the most precious asset, which is time. Many people, including -- I'm proud to say -- my three children, give extensively of their own time and talents to help others. Gifts of this kind often prove far more valuable than money. A struggling child, befriended and nurtured by a caring mentor, receives a gift whose value far exceeds what can be bestowed by a check. My sister, Doris, extends significant person-to-person help daily. I've done little of this.

What I can do, however, is to take a pile of Berkshire Hathaway stock certificates -- "claim checks" that when converted to cash can command far-ranging resources -- and commit them to benefit others who, through the luck of the draw, have received the short straws in life. To date about 20% of my shares have been distributed (including shares given by my late wife, Susan Buffett). I will continue to annually distribute about 4% of the shares I retain. At the latest, the proceeds from all of my Berkshire shares will be expended for philanthropic purposes by 10 years after my estate is settled. Nothing will go to endowments; I want the money spent on current needs.

This pledge will leave my lifestyle untouched and that of my children as well. They have already received significant sums for their personal use and will receive more in the future. They live comfortable and productive lives. And I will continue to live in a manner that gives me everything that I could possibly want in life.

Some material things make my life more enjoyable; many, however, would not. I like having an expensive private plane, but owning a half-dozen homes would be a burden. Too often, a vast collection of possessions ends up possessing its owner. The asset I most value, aside from health, is interesting, diverse, and long-standing friends.

My wealth has come from a combination of living in America, some lucky genes, and compound interest. Both my children and I won what I call the ovarian lottery. (For starters, the odds against my 1930 birth taking place in the U.S. were at least 30 to 1. My being male and white also removed huge obstacles that a majority of Americans then faced.)

My luck was accentuated by my living in a market system that sometimes produces distorted results, though overall it serves our country well. I've worked in an economy that rewards someone who saves the lives of others on a battlefield with a medal, rewards a great teacher with thank-you notes from parents, but rewards those who can detect the mispricing of securities with sums reaching into the billions. In short, fate's distribution of long straws is wildly capricious.

The reaction of my family and me to our extraordinary good fortune is not guilt, but rather gratitude. Were we to use more than 1% of my claim checks on ourselves, neither our happiness nor our well-being would be enhanced. In contrast, that remaining 99% can have a huge effect on the health and welfare of others. That reality sets an obvious course for me and my family: Keep all we can conceivably need and distribute the rest to society, for its needs. My pledge starts us down that course.

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Monday, September 13, 2010

Find A Word Nicer Than Stupid Song!

CHORUS: Find a word nicer than stupid,

Use a word kinder than jerk.

Find a word gentler than idiot,

And you’ll see how nicely they work...

…to make the people feel better, to put them in the proper mood,

To hear your true intentions, that you want to help them improve.

So things will go more smoothly, so there’ll be fewer mistakes.

So everyone will feel good inside. Nice words is what it takes.

So don’t call anyone crazy. Stop using “horrible” too.

Stop using words that insult and degrade and only elevate you.

Use words that uplift and encourage, that make the person feel nice.

Oh I know it’s hard being told what to do, but I hope you take this advice.

So don’t call anyone lazy. Don’t say, “What’s the matter with you?!”

Don’t say, “Well, if you had any brains…” ‘cause if you do the one without them is you.

Never say someone is rotten. Don’t say that someone’s no good.

Don’t say, “Oh, he’s ridiculous.” You’ll be saying things that you should-n’t.

Just don’t use pejorative phrases. And don’t use belittling terms.

Don’t say things that’ll make them feel bad. Don’t say things that will hurt.

CHORUS: Yes, find a word nicer than stupid,

Use a word kinder than jerk.

Find a word gentler than idiot,

And you’ll see how nicely they work.

And never use words that are swearing. Never, oh never, oh no.

Or any words that are offensive at all, don’t let them out of your throat.

Don’t even let yourself think them. Replace them with words that are nice.

Replace them with words that are gentle and kind. There’s no better advice.

And always be kind in your thinking. Remember thoughts are more important than words.

Your thoughts set up the way you view everything, even though nothing is heard.

And don’t call anyone nicknames, even if they say they don’t mind.

Just call people by their G-d given names, even if the nicknames are kind.

CHORUS: Yes, find a word nicer than stupid,

Use a word kinder than jerk.

Find a word gentler than idiot,

And you’ll see how nicely they work.

Find the good in each person, amplify that in your mind.

Everyone does what they think is right, when you judge them try to be kind.

Oh it takes a little while to accomplish. Bad words are automatic for most folks.

But once you elevate your way of thinking, you’ll have something that you really can boast about.

CHORUS: So, find a word nicer than stupid,

Use a word kinder than jerk.

Find a word gentler than idiot,

And you’ll see how nicely they work.

Say things like, “I know that you’re trying.” Or say, “Look, we all make mistakes.”

Say, “Don’t feel pressured because of me. Take your time, whatever it takes.”

Say, “How about doing it this way?” Or, “I found that this way works the best.”

Or, “However you do it is fine with me, I’m just thankful that you’re letting me rest.”

Say, “Next time it’s sure to be better.” Say, “Not bad for the first time around.”

And sometimes it’s better to say not a thing, just approve without making a sound.

Say, “To me it’s not so important. What’s important is your happiness, dear.”

Or, “I know you have reasons why you do what you do, maybe you could make them more clear.”

Try to say words like “terrific.” Say, “Fine,” “Very good,” or “Great!”

Say, “That looks nice,” or “That’s a job well done,” or “I’ve got plenty of time to wait."

CHORUS: Yes, find a word nicer than stupid,

Use a word kinder than jerk.

Find a word gentler than idiot,

And you’ll see how nicely they work.

Yes you’ll see how nicely they work.

Yes you’ll see… how nicely they work.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Some Halachos of Mechila

1) The Aseres Yemei Teshuva, and particularly Erev Yom Kippur, is the ideal time to apologize, beg forgiveness and ask for Mechila from anyone that we may have slighted in any way throughout the previous year (or longer).
Sins that require Mechila from another human being will not be wiped away with Teshuva alone, until forgiveness is sought. If one asks you for Mechila, you should find it in your heart to forgive them.

The Poskim say that if the one who wronged you does not come to you to ask for Mechila, then you (the victim) should go to him/her and present yourself to him/her in such a way to encourage them to ask you for forgiveness
(Mateh Ephraim, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch and others based on Gemara in Yoma 87a).
The Seforim compare this to us and Hashem. In the Yemei HaTeshuva Hashem comes down from Shamayim and makes it easy for us to ask - and receive- His divine forgiveness, as it says in the Posuk "Dirshu Hashem B'HiMatzo- Seek out Hashem when He is near".

2) Asking Mechila in a general way (e.g. "Are you Mochel way for anything and everything I may have done etc.) is sufficient for minor infractions only. However if you wronged someone in a significantly harmful way (spoke scandalous Lashon Hara about them, caused them significant monetary damage etc.) you must beg their forgiveness specifically for that infraction, and must verbalize the details upon asking.
However, if you spoke Lashon Hara about somebody and they don't know about it, and by revealing it to them (in order to ask forgiveness) you will cause them additional pain and anguish , it is better not to detail what was spoken, but rather to simply ask Mechila for speaking badly about them (Psak Rav Shlomo Zalmen Auerbach Zatzal)

Of course, when asking for forgiveness it must be sincere and you must genuinely regret what you did and resolve not to do it again. Simply mouthing the words "Are you Mochel me?" isn't sufficient. Likewise, the one who says "I am Mochel you" but doesn't really mean it, and continues to bear a grudge, is doing a disservice for all parties involved.

Why Round Challah?

Why Round Challah?

by Aliza Bulow

Some surprising spiritual insights from the Rosh Hashana challah.

All year long our challah is braided, but it is round for Rosh Hashana. What does the challah's shape teach us about this special time of year?

Rosh Hashana is a holiday filled with physical doorways into the spiritual world. The blasts of the shofar are the prime example of this (see: Symbolism of the Shofar). But there are many others as well All year round, we dip our challah in salt before distributing it; during the High Holiday season, many use honey so that we may have a sweet year. For the same reason, many make a sweeter challah dough as well.

We also begin the evening Rosh Hashana meals by dipping apples into honey and reciting a prayer for a good and sweet year. Some continue with a Rosh Hashana "seder," sampling many different foods and reciting a prayer that contains an allusion to the food's Hebrew name.

Every Jewish custom is significant on a very deep level. Some have levels that we can access; others are beyond our grasp. Even the shape of the loaf of challah can teach us something deep about the holiday on which it is consumed.

Creative Energy

The Shabbat challah is braided. "Six days shall you work (engage in creative activity), and on the seventh shall you desist" (Exodus 34:21). Part of the preparation for the Shabbat is engaging in melacha, creative activity. Braiding is creative activity. The braid is a shape that does not appear in nature. (Ficus trees are hand-braided.) It is a shape that is made by humans and it is representative of the human ability to manipulate the raw material of the world. Braiding the challah strands helps us harness our creative capacities for the purpose of observing the Shabbat.

But braiding is more than that. The Talmud tells us that God Himself braided Eve's hair in preparation for her wedding to Adam (Brachot 61a). Was He merely beautifying her? Rabbi Avraham Chaim Feuer teaches that God's braiding of Eve's hair was His wedding gift to the couple. He was arranging her creative energies, channeling her imagination into an ordered form that would allow her to maximize her potential as a wife. He was both charging her and gifting her with the ability and the task of channeling the energy of the couple into positive and creative directions. The braid represents that directive, to focus and give order to the energies of one's household.

Significantly, many loaves are braided out of six strands. Six represents the days of the week that are not Shabbat. My mother-in-law taught me that braiding six strands into one loaf represents the six days of the week that are bound up in the one Shabbat. Six directed toward one, weekdays manifesting on Shabbat, this world bearing fruit for the next. The six-stranded braid offers us the direction of the channeling that we are enjoined to accomplish.

70 Faces of Torah

Round challahs are unique to the High Holiday season. Some say they represent a crown that reflects our coronating God as the King of the world.

Others suggest that the circular shape points to the cyclical nature of the year. The Hebrew word for year is "shana," which comes from the Hebrew word "repeat." Perhaps the circle illustrates how the years just go round and round. But Rosh Hashana challahs are not really circles; they are spirals…

There are 70 faces to the Torah, or in Hebrew, shiv'im panim la'Torah. This means that there are 70 ways to understand every facet of Torah. The word "panim" can be translated either as "face," or as "innerness." Thus the Torah presents 70 different "faces," appearing differently depending on the psychological, intellectual and spiritual angle from which it is examined. It also means that there are 70 different inner realities for every facet we can see.

King David lived for 70 years, and, in our tradition, that is considered to be the "average" lifespan. Each subsequent year of life makes a person into a different creation than the year before. So if one lives the average lifetime, another understanding of "70 faces to the Torah" could mean that we, through living 70 years, have our own 70 faces that we can turn to the Torah. That is why we often have "aha!" moments even as we study the same concepts we studied last year, or hear the same weekly Torah portion we have heard for years in a row. Turning a different one of our faces to the Torah means that our "receptor sites" are different, and we are able to tune into a new aspect each year.

Climbing Higher

The word "shana" has a double meaning as well. In addition to "repeat," it also means "change". As the year goes go round and round, repeating the same seasons and holidays as the year before, we are presented with a choice: Do we want this shana (year) to be a repetition, or do we want to make a change (shinui)? Hopefully, each year we make choices for change that are positive, and each year we will climb higher and higher, creating a spiritual spiral.

The shape of the Rosh Hashana challah reminds us that this is the time of year to make those decisions. This is the time to engage in the creative spiritual process that lifts us out of the repetitive cycle, and directs our energies toward a higher end. Have a sweet new year!

If one is uncertain if he said "HaMelech HaKadosh"

by Rabbi Ya'aqob Menashe

During the Aseret Yimey Teshuva one says HaMelech HaKadosh instead of HaE-l HaKadosh. If one, out of force of habit, erred and said (or is uncertain if he said) HaE-l HaKadosh, but corrected it right away, he has fulfilled his obligation. If, however, he paused longer than the time it takes to say "Shalom 'Alechem Ribbi (Umori)", or started the next Beracha, he must go back to the beginning of Shemoneh Esreh.

If, while the person is davening Shemoneh Esreh, he becomes uncertain whether he said HaMelech HaKadosh or not, we consider that he said "HaE-l HaKadosh", like the rest of the year and must repeat Shemoneh Esreh. However, if before starting Shemoneh Esreh he was conscious of the fact that he had to say "HaMelech HaKadosh", and only after he completed Shemoneh Esreh became doubtful whether he said it correctly or not, he does not need to repeat Shemoneh Esreh.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

A New Leaf

He came to the desk with a quivering lip;
the lesson was all done;
"dear Teacher, I want a new leaf," he said. "I have spoiled this one."
I took the old leaf, torn and blotted, and gave him a new one, all unspotted.
And into his sad eyes smiled, "Do better now, my child."

I came to the throne with a trembling heart;
the year's work was done.
"Dear Father, I want a new year," I said. "I have spoiled this one."
He took the old year, torn and blotted, and gave me a new one, all unspotted.
And into my sad heart smiled, "Do better now, my child."

Daily Tehilim for Gilad

Thank you SO SO much to all those of you who signed up to say tehilim for Gilad ben Aviva! Tizku L'mitzvos! Unfortunately (or fortunately, depends who's asking) we still have many open prakim. There is no portion more than 15 pesukim! If you're afraid you'll forget I can remind you don't let that turn you away!
If the fact that you need to sign up for the site is deterring you I have a few things to say:
1. It's a 10- second process tops.
2. If baruch Hashem you're so busy you don't have time for that take TWO seconds to comment your email address and I will sign you up for it! All you have to do is check your email & confirm, then click on the World Wide Tehilim Chabura (the button with Gilad's picture on the main page), find a perek you connect with and press Sign Me Up.
3. If you REALLY have NO time. Confirm your email and I will sign you up for a short one.

Easy as pie.

If you happen to have more time than those in need of my assistance I strongly urge you to check out the site and all the incredible features it has to offer in order to organize Tehilim for cholim.

Beg Hashem to safely return our brothers and not at the terrible cost they're currently demanding. (No political statement there).

Acheinu Kol Beis Yisroel.